A tip for those who choose to serve others in both professional and non-professional environments using intuitive and/or healing gifts: Another name for people who use the gift of their senses in any mode is "Sensitive". If you notice in your work, the people who come to you are also intuitive in their own way, which would make them "Sensitive" too, which many times translates into the normal meaning we all know of being "sensitive" (taken from the Merriam-Webster Dictionary).........highly responsive or susceptible: as a (1) : easily hurt or damaged; especially : easily hurt emotionally (2) : delicately aware of the attitudes and feelings of others.
Being sensitive is a wonderful thing in truth. You are able to use senses to feel out situations and go by gut feelings. I always say, "Show me someone who is sensitive, and I will show you someone who is highly intuitive." They are also creative, intelligent, and respond to the world in deeper ways. There is no such thing as being TOO sensitive. But. There are many people who have not yet found a way to channel that sensitivity into something beneficial for not only themselves, but others as well. When sensitivity runs amok and ego takes the reins, it can create all sorts of turmoil in the lives and minds of people.
In your work, as I have experienced throughout the years, you are going to come across such a person where their sensitivity is so heightened it is channeled into fear, rather than something more positive. I use the word "fear" only because this is what all other negative emotions boil down to. There are people who already come into a reading or a healing with so much fear within them that it's all they can see, no matter what you do or try to tell them. They will pick apart the small parts where they are told they will have to work on to bring change about and not even see or hear the wonderful things. Unfortunately, I've had clients in the past that have blown up at me in such hugely negative reactive ways that I reacted in my own ways:
1. Refuse to read for the client anymore (thankfully, I've only ever had to completely cut off two women after dealing with them multiple times in all my years of doing this work)
2. Made myself sick with worry when dealing with someone emotionally unstable because you never know what they'll do
3. Took on their highly charged emotions as my own, which lead to doubting myself as a reader and feeling my confidence slip away
4. Quit my work altogether for periods of time because I felt that it was not worth it to take that sort of venting or abuse from people, and felt that no one was being helped or listening anyway
It's a fact that you will eventually have someone come to you who is highly charged with fear (panic, desperation, emotionally unstable, hitting rock bottom and cannot see the light, etc.), and you're going to get lashed out at. No matter how many times you say "don't shoot the messenger", you're going to get shot anyway. So what do you do? No one wants to have all that negativity smacking them in the face after trying to help them. After all, they came to you, not the other way around! But yet.........you still strongly feel this is your purpose and current life path. And no matter how many times you try to shove it away, it always draws you back. So how do you help others and keep your sanity at the same time?
Here is what I've learned: DETACH. Put on your psychic or spiritual kevlar/bullet proof vest and don't take those barbs, vents, or screams to heart. Remember that when you strip away that fear they are projecting in such strong ways, there is a person who wants healing or answers just like anyone else. Tell yourself that the person is a wonderfully intuitive person who just hasn't yet figured out a way to channel all that sensitivity into more productive, beneficial, and positive ways. Not everyone is naturally born with all the perfect tools to deal with all situations they encounter, especially those that bring what are considered major disappointments in their minds. Remember that they are human, and even if their heart knows that what you say, or the healing you conduct, is meant specifically for them to help them on their paths, there are times when that ego will scream so loudly in their heads to continue to fear that they will wind up transferring that to you in the form of venting outward. It's never personal, even if it may feel like it is until you've learned to accept this as a part of this mission you've chosen.
Does that mean you have to be a doormat and let people treat you in whatever way makes them feel better as they blow off steam? Not at all! What it means is that you do not engage them in their fear or soak in their emotions as your own. Again, DETACH. Do not go tit for tat in exchanging of words. You'll most likely feel obligated to respond (you can't exactly ignore your clients, even when you wish you could at times), but just respond in a way that is detached from all drama and wish them the best...because you wouldn't be in your line of work if you didn't want the best for them and for them to see that they deserve the best in life.
Don't be afraid to set your boundaries. Some will try to engage you into further discord to validate their emotions, but simply step away from it and refuse to participate in anger. Instead, participate only as a teacher who hopes one day the student will come around and change their perspective of how they see the world and their own lives, or as the doctor who hopes one day the patient will finally start heeding the advice and be a willing participant in their own road to health. And if the person just doesn't want to help themselves, have no fear in letting them go, especially if they get upset at you for not participating in their drama. If you have to repeatedly set your personal boundaries for how far you're willing to go for a client, let them go. You have to take care of yourself too, and you don't need that sort of drain upon your energy to constantly go around and around with the same issues and the same fears all the time. You can find peace in that you tried your best and now it's up to them. Perhaps some other experience will finally click on that "AHA!" lightbulb moment for them and they'll finally discover their way. After all, there is no set time frame or race for someone to find their footing. You may not have been standing by their side when that happens, and it may come through someone else or some other circumstance, but at least you were a part of the path that eventually lead them to the road of recovery or wholeness. Find joy in that knowledge!
Let's face it. People never really come to readers or healers when everything is "right" or perfect in their lives. About 98% of the people have some sort of issue they need help with when they approach you for your services. On a whole, those people are respectful, kind, and eager to help themselves while you help bring some clarity, even if they have a lot of fear bottled up inside of them. It's just not their nature to lash out. This goes for healing work too and the people who come to be healed. The other 2%...again, detach emotionally and remember that your work isn't to cater to their fears, but as one human helping out another. Go forth fearlessly, keep your eyes on your targets, and do what you do best with no attachment to the outcome. You are needed and you are always ready and capable in truth. Much love to you all!
During my morning meditation yesterday, I was given a most wonderful meditation to pass along:
We are really not separated from Source (you can put your own word here such as God, Universe, All that Is, or whatever you feel comfortable with), but there are plenty of times when it sure feels like there's been a disconnection. So I was given a quick and easy way to remedy this.......
Envision being in a place of sweet golden light with lighter individual rays emitting from all around you. Take your awareness all the way up to your crown (the top of your head) and imagine seeing or feeling it opening wide to receive. See a huge burst of light shooting out from your crown and then allow all the light around you from Source to flood into your crown at the same time. There is giving and receiving....a blending of light....which is actually the same.....but you're exchanging and opening for rejuvenated unfiltered light.
Then envision a giant glowing plug with cord coming out of your crown and rising high up in the air. See a hand reach down and gently take the plug pulling it straight into the most brilliant spot within the light. With it now connected, feel the love and energy flowing directly to you and watch as your entire body becomes flooded with light throughout every single cell. You are one. You are worthy. You are beautiful. You are loved. You are perfect just as you are. You are beyond your circumstances, environment, and experiences. You are timeless. You are empowered. You are capable. And you are ready to live life to the fullest because it is what you were always meant to do.
From yesterday's meditation:
I was first shown a scene at a beach where there was a large pile of rocks next to a cliff overlooking the ocean. There were many people sitting high up on these rocks looking up towards the sun. There were many more people down below trying to figure out how to climb up to the others. They were all looking forward to the Age of Light and wanted to be embraced fully by the light and warmth of the sun. Those on top began to extend their hands to help the others up safely. They were not worried about the possible lack of room on top when the other people joined them. They would make room no matter what because it was everyone's right to experience this oneness with the light. The people all sat on top and had smiles as they communicated to the light and enjoyed the sun's rays upon their faces. Then dark clouds moved in, completely blocking out the light. The people looked at each other wondering what to do. Should they climb back down and try again another day? How was it even possible that such a glorious light be blocked in the first place?
Then a woman looked down at her solar plexus area and gasped. She had so much light shining through. She pointed for the others to look at their own bodies and they too had brilliant light shining out. They didn't need to look to external sources. All they had to do was look to themselves! This light could never be dimmed. It was in them and all around them. They were their own perfect resource. Heaven was already present everywhere, including within them.
Then I heard a smart alecky voice (probably my own) ask, "Well what about murderers, rapists, muggers, abusers, and all the other negative people of this world? You're trying to say that they too have this brilliant light shining through them? If so, how could they possibly hurt others the way they do?" The answer came back as YES. Yes, they too have the light. But these people do not live with conscious awareness of this light even though it shines brilliantly within them. Instead, these people live completely in their heads where fear, the desire for power, pain, anger, and all the other negative emotions of the ego reside. It's as if their bodies have been split into two different apartments where the light resides down below in the core of the body, and upper apartment is dark and condemned. They have the same light as we do and the same capability of wholeness. Yet, they've been sucked into the depths of ego and haven't found a way out of that very dark place.
The next scene shown to me was very familiar because I had just seen something very similar to it for a client I read for this week. A woman stood in a cave and looked back at many eager people waiting for her to make a move. They were attracted to her light and wanted her to guide them safely out of this dark cave. She was being put into the role of a leader or way-shower. This weighed heavily upon her shoulders, even though she knew her light was shining forth brilliantly and was meant to help others. I was then told that yes, it's meant to be and fine to lead. What is not fine, however, is when you're constantly called upon to lead others (particularly the same people) over and over again. Someone in this position would find that it's most beneficial to all involved if they would also become a spiritual teacher and teach others to look to their own light so that they may learn to depend on themselves and their own resources, rather than constantly looking to sources outside of themselves. The leader-follower situation can then become a team of peers together consciously bringing more light forth to the world. It really is too much for one person among groups to always be expected to show the way. A group together, however, can create miraculous results!
The scene switched and I was shown faces of people with a most gorgeous rose colored aura around them with a blending of yellow and orange. These were the colors of love and compassion, which also brought in elements of Divinely inspired creativity, confidence, and an acceptance of self. After all, if you cannot even accept yourself, how can you truly say you have acceptance, love, and tolerance for others? You are your best friend, your greatest love, and even your greatest challenge. Should you desire to "feel" whole (which you already are in truth), just imagine these beautiful colors swirling all around you and infusing you with the gifts they bring.
The last scene to come to me was of a woman bobbing up and down with the waves of the ocean. She started to panic at first because the currents were taking her far from where she had entered the water. She tried with all her might to swim back, but it was exhausting and she wasn't getting anywhere despite her hard work and best efforts. All she did was wind up further and further away, was winded, and feeling her muscles become fatigued. When she let go and let the flow take her, she discovered something else. She suddenly felt euphoric! Pulled away from her comfort zone, she found a strange calm as she quit trying to control the situation. She felt at one with the ocean and the sky. She did not know where she was going or what she would encounter along the way, but without her mind screaming to have that comfort zone back, she actually found herself looking to a new adventure.
