The Clients We Love: Who Can Also Be Our Biggest Challenges

A tip for those who choose to serve others in both professional and non-professional environments using intuitive and/or healing gifts: Another name for people who use the gift of their senses in any mode is "Sensitive". If you notice in your work, the people who come to you are also intuitive in their own way, which would make them "Sensitive" too, which many times translates into the normal meaning we all know of being "sensitive" (taken from the Merriam-Webster Dictionary).........highly responsive or susceptible: as a (1) : easily hurt or damaged; especially : easily hurt emotionally (2) : delicately aware of the attitudes and feelings of others.

Being sensitive is a wonderful thing in truth. You are able to use senses to feel out situations and go by gut feelings.  I always say, "Show me someone who is sensitive, and I will show you someone who is highly intuitive."  They are also creative, intelligent, and respond to the world in deeper ways. There is no such thing as being TOO sensitive. But. There are many people who have not yet found a way to channel that sensitivity into something beneficial for not only themselves, but others as well.  When sensitivity runs amok and ego takes the reins, it can create all sorts of turmoil in the lives and minds of people.

In your work, as I have experienced throughout the years, you are going to come across such a person where their sensitivity is so heightened it is channeled into fear, rather than something more positive.  I use the word "fear" only because this is what all other negative emotions boil down to. There are people who already come into a reading or a healing with so much fear within them that it's all they can see, no matter what you do or try to tell them. They will pick apart the small parts where they are told they will have to work on to bring change about and not even see or hear the wonderful things. Unfortunately, I've had clients in the past that have blown up at me in such hugely negative reactive ways that I reacted in my own ways:

1.  Refuse to read for the client anymore (thankfully, I've only ever had to completely cut off two women after dealing with them multiple times in all my years of doing this work)
2.  Made myself sick with worry when dealing with someone emotionally unstable because you never know what they'll do
3.  Took on their highly charged emotions as my own, which lead to doubting myself as a reader and feeling my confidence slip away
4.  Quit my work altogether for periods of time because I felt that it was not worth it to take that sort of venting or abuse from people, and felt that no one was being helped or listening anyway

It's a fact that you will eventually have someone come to you who is highly charged with fear (panic, desperation, emotionally unstable, hitting rock bottom and cannot see the light, etc.), and you're going to get lashed out at. No matter how many times you say "don't shoot the messenger", you're going to get shot anyway. So what do you do? No one wants to have all that negativity smacking them in the face after trying to help them.  After all, they came to you, not the other way around! But yet.........you still strongly feel this is your purpose and current life path. And no matter how many times you try to shove it away, it always draws you back. So how do you help others and keep your sanity at the same time?

Here is what I've learned:  DETACH. Put on your psychic or spiritual kevlar/bullet proof vest and don't take those barbs, vents, or screams to heart. Remember that when you strip away that fear they are projecting in such strong ways, there is a person who wants healing or answers just like anyone else. Tell yourself that the person is a wonderfully intuitive person who just hasn't yet figured out a way to channel all that sensitivity into more productive, beneficial, and positive ways. Not everyone is naturally born with all the perfect tools to deal with all situations they encounter, especially those that bring what are considered major disappointments in their minds. Remember that they are human, and even if their heart knows that what you say, or the healing you conduct, is meant specifically for them to help them on their paths, there are times when that ego will scream so loudly in their heads to continue to fear that they will wind up transferring that to you in the form of venting outward. It's never personal, even if it may feel like it is until you've learned to accept this as a part of this mission you've chosen.

Does that mean you have to be a doormat and let people treat you in whatever way makes them feel better as they blow off steam? Not at all! What it means is that you do not engage them in their fear or soak in their emotions as your own.  Again, DETACH. Do not go tit for tat in exchanging of words. You'll most likely feel obligated to respond (you can't exactly ignore your clients, even when you wish you could at times), but just respond in a way that is detached from all drama and wish them the best...because you wouldn't be in your line of work if you didn't want the best for them and for them to see that they deserve the best in life.

Don't be afraid to set your boundaries.  Some will try to engage you into further discord to validate their emotions, but simply step away from it and refuse to participate in anger. Instead, participate only as a teacher who hopes one day the student will come around and change their perspective of how they see the world and their own lives, or as the doctor who hopes one day the patient will finally start heeding the advice and be a willing participant in their own road to health.  And if the person just doesn't want to help themselves, have no fear in letting them go, especially if they get upset at you for not participating in their drama. If you have to repeatedly set your personal boundaries for how far you're willing to go for a client, let them go.  You have to take care of yourself too, and you don't need that sort of drain upon your energy to constantly go around and around with the same issues and the same fears all the time.  You can find peace in that you tried your best and now it's up to them.  Perhaps some other experience will finally click on that "AHA!" lightbulb moment for them and they'll finally discover their way. After all, there is no set time frame or race for someone to find their footing. You may not have been standing by their side when that happens, and it may come through someone else or some other circumstance, but at least you were a part of the path that eventually lead them to the road of recovery or wholeness. Find joy in that knowledge!

Let's face it.  People never really come to readers or healers when everything is "right" or perfect in their lives.  About 98% of the people have some sort of issue they need help with when they approach you for your services.  On a whole, those people are respectful, kind, and eager to help themselves while you help bring some clarity, even if they have a lot of fear bottled up inside of them. It's just not their nature to lash out.  This goes for healing work too and the people who come to be healed.  The other 2%...again, detach emotionally and remember that your work isn't to cater to their fears, but as one human helping out another.  Go forth fearlessly, keep your eyes on your targets, and do what you do best with no attachment to the outcome. You are needed and you are always ready and capable in truth. Much love to you all!