When people lie, it never really is about sparing your feelings or not wanting to hurt you, as you have been told when the truth finally comes out. It's always about the person doing the lying. They are trying to cover their own feelings and belief of inadequacies with outward illusions. They are also afraid of the possible consequences of their own truths such as the fear of being rejected, have anger directed towards them, or being thought less of.
When people lie to us, our egos flare up, our feelings are bruised, and we say, "How DARE he/she lie to me! How could I be such a fool to have trusted them?!"
Take ego out of the equation and see these lies for what they really are. Depersonalize them and realize that the lies were never about you....even if it appears to be so because it feels manipulative. When you see how difficult it must be to always live in fear of speaking the truth, and how little confidence they must have within themselves to not live aligned with their integrity to where they must keep lying or making things up to look better on surface appearances.....it really isn't that hard to find compassion for them. It doesn't mean they will change, but it will help you find peace and center within the situation, which is a lot better than holding resentment and anger.
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