Speaking Truths

It is important to speak your truth, and you should as often as you can. It's how you speak your truth that can be an issue. Before you voice something that has been building up inside of you, ask yourself if the words you are about to say will be worth the reaction to them in the next hour, next day, next month, or even years to come? Do you think that in a week you're going to look back and feel exactly as you do in this very moment? Is it going to be worth straining a friendship or relationship over? Is it going to be worth a possible backlash? If the answer is no, then choose another time and place to give your truth a voice, as life always offers us more opportunities. You could also choose just to let it go and be at peace with it.

If the answer is yes because you have to stand your ground on a matter, then stop yourself for a second and find the best possible way to word it without involving ego, anger, and frustration. Really look at the situation. Are you ready to share your true feelings because you have to set up personal boundaries? Or are lashing out because the person is merely projecting what your ego has been whispering to you all along and you feel threatened by the idea that someone is once again affirming a belief you hold inside no matter how tiny it is? When you speak from the heart, no matter what the reaction is, you can feel empowered and at peace with yourself because you know you did the best you could.

The way someone reacts to your words is their issue, but you also have a responsibility in accepting the consequences of your own choices, such as how you choose to speak your truth. If you want to respond heatedly, then accept the possibility of alienating someone or being a co-creator in negative vibes. Finding a way to stand your ground and speak lovingly makes for better solutions, to be better heard (people respond better to calmness and simplicity that someone who is screaming or throwing around strong words), and allows a doorway of opportunity for release.

More times than not, when looking at the chakras of clients, I see really small throat chakras that are tight against their throat areas, strangling them from letting out their truths. Some people feel they cannot speak their truth and would not be heard or taken seriously anyway. Some feel they are too afraid because of how others will react.

It is incredibly unhealthy to keep these things inside, but I can see why they are afraid of how others will respond to them. This is why it's so key to give your truth a voice, BUT not go off impulsively without thinking about HOW you want that voice to be heard. When you speak from a calm and introspective place, your words will carry more meaning than from anger or frustration. People will remember that you were mad and the curse words you flung around like bee stingers...but probably won't even remember what the true message was that you were trying to get across in the first place.

You can always write a letter too. This way, you can have time to choose your words, think about what is truly important to you that you want someone to know, and you won't be interrupted by someone else's ego rising to the defensive. If the response is negative anyway, let it go because at least you did your part to the best of your ability. And realize that most of the time, people don't even know that you felt that way this whole time and it takes a period of time to adjust to a truth that just brought down the whole illusion they've been carrying.